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Goodbye Shy Awkward

  • Nov. 13th, 2008 at 2:55 PM


Usually, when I start writing a new young adult character, I tend to gravitate to the shy, awkward, unconfident girl.  Because that was me, in a nutshell.  And I remember so many of my classmates being the same way.

But now that's not so realistic.

This is the effect of the trophy-for-everyone, no-red-pencil age.  Interesting, no?  I wonder if these children will succeed in life, or if we'll see higher rates of depression when these kids can't live up to the image they have of themselves.  After all, when there is no substance behind it, the bigger an ego is, the harder it tends to fall.

Comments

[info]walkwrite wrote:
Nov. 13th, 2008 08:17 pm (UTC)
Commments are on! Comment! Comment! I'm leaving a comment!

Yah, I'm like you. But at least those of us with lingering teen angst have lots of good writing material.
[info]cyn2write wrote:
Nov. 13th, 2008 08:30 pm (UTC)
Ha, now that those polarizing months are behind us, I'm opening the shop for comments once again!

Can you imagine teens reading our angsty books and being like, "WTF? What are they so negative about themselves for?" HA! Sounds like my parents talking to me.
[info]robinellen wrote:
Nov. 13th, 2008 08:51 pm (UTC)
Hm...I noticed during research that the average on standardized test remains about the same since I took them over 20 years ago. Of course, I was never the shy, awkward type. I do remember thinking that a couple of my students were about to receive a rude awakening, however (when they either graduated or went back to public school). And I never hesitated to make my students do their work over again.
[info]cyn2write wrote:
Nov. 13th, 2008 08:59 pm (UTC)
It should be interesting to see! There are positives to high self-esteem, but I can also see the negatives, too!!
[info]bec_fitzpatrick wrote:
Nov. 13th, 2008 09:23 pm (UTC)
Wow. Interesting article. I'd never heard of this before. Three cheers for the parents/teachers out there who ARE doing a good job. My husband's employer (Intel) pays employees to go back to school and get a teaching degree because they want to improve the math/science standard of US schools. I think they're concerned about the next generation . . .
[info]cyn2write wrote:
Nov. 14th, 2008 04:52 pm (UTC)
It is concerning! I think about the other nations where children aren't coddled and wonder if we're going to fall behind...
[info]emilyhainsworth wrote:
Nov. 14th, 2008 05:59 am (UTC)
You know, I've been hearing so much about the differences between the Generation X crowd and the Millenials/Gen Y. I think that has something to do with it too. Gen Xers are generally labeled as aimless and unsure about their lives, while Millenials (~1980+) are goal-driven and know what they want out of life. (I straddle the two gens, so I am just...confused. heh.) The differences could stem from parental-style, but whatever it is, it's interesting.

ANYWAY, to tie this back to writing...um, I still believe that all of these over-confident kids must feel deeply insecure inside. How can you have all those raging hormones and be anything but?? They must express it differently. So, maybe your new MC will just have to be a thoroughly modern complex kid who goes to great lengths to look/feel confident while doubting themselves all the while. Hey, you're giving me ideas... ;)
[info]cyn2write wrote:
Nov. 14th, 2008 04:55 pm (UTC)
It's funny, I've seen a lot of fresh-out-of-college kids applying for jobs now, and they seem disgusted by the fact that they have to start at the ground floor, as a scrub. When I was out of college, that's just what I did... I started out making $7 an hour as a secretary and worked my way up. I figured I needed to pay my dues. I don't know where this sense of entitlement comes from, but it's a little frightening!
[info]heather_ink wrote:
Nov. 14th, 2008 11:15 pm (UTC)
In some ways there is more confidence, more drive, more ambition in teenagers today than there was, say, 20 years go... but Im a school counselor and Im in there every day. I find this article kinda funny. Adolescence is adolescence and there is so much upheaval and confusion and anxiety and self-consciousness... its still there. And added academic pressure often means HIGHER rates of depression and anxiety... keep writing those shy awkward girls! the readers are there, for sure, just quieter... the boys too.
(Anonymous) wrote:
Jan. 10th, 2009 08:45 am (UTC)
One of my favorite blogs ever just posted this entry:

http://freerangekids.wordpress.com/2009/01/10/too-much-self-esteem/

It reminded me right away of your post and I thought you might enjoy it also! Let me know what you think...
[info]cyn2write wrote:
Jan. 10th, 2009 09:30 pm (UTC)
Thanks for a great link. I read the comments too and can't believe school districts are now getting rid of the "minus" in grades because they think it will damage kids! It's just plain crazy.
[info]mandyrtaylor wrote:
Jan. 10th, 2009 08:46 am (UTC)
Dang it. I always do that. It was me who wrote that last "anonymous" comment.
[info]cyn2write wrote:
Jan. 10th, 2009 10:07 pm (UTC)
Hi, Mandy, thanks for the link! :)

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